Some time ago I found this interesting article.
As you may have guessed from earlier posts, I'm quite interested in the human mind and psyche. Not surprisingly I want to talk about this psychological article! =)
Apparently there are 5 love languages. Generally people "speak" one of the following 5 languages:
1. Words of Affirmation
Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.
2. Quality Time
In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.
3. Receiving Gifts
Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of everyday gestures.
4. Acts of Service
Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter.
5. Physical Touch
This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.
One of the ways to make a relationship work is learning to speak the other's love language.
My love language is something between
Quality Time and
Physical Touch. I absolutely love back hugs! And dancing is definitely something I want to do with my future boyfriend (unless of course he can't or has no interest). To me it wouldn't matter just what we do, as long as we see each other regularly. I don't need to hear "I love you" every time, as long as I feel it through actions and attention. I'm not so much a kisser, but I love holding hands and hugs ^-^
Ah, and the atmosphere should be playful and full of purpose, not heavy with romance... x) I guess I'm cheesy, not romantic.
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*~Maria
Source:
5 Love languages
